Few events are as jarring as losing your job, especially when it happens unexpectedly and it’s the first time you’ve ever been through it. Here are a few things you should know:
First, it’s totally normal to freak out. Losing a job is one of the most stressful things that can happen in our lives, and everyone handles it differently. You may be worried about money, angry that this decision was made, or feel ashamed to tell anyone. It’s all totally normal. Take a few days to let the news soak in, process it how you need to,* and don’t make any major decisions until you’ve had some time to come to terms with this change.
Take inventory. Once you’ve had time to clear your head, you need to assess the situation so you know what you’re dealing with. How much money do you have in the bank? How much time do you realistically have before you have to take the backup job? What expenses can you cut temporarily? What else in your life might be impacted by this change?
Make an action list. Seriously, there’s nothing like a good checklist that will give you some direction and make you feel empowered when you start marking things off. Refresh your resume. Reach out to people you know. Setup job search notifications. Write your cover letter. Get moving.
Attitude is everything in this situation. I get it. It’s easy and understandable that you would be angry, upset, bitter, worried, etc. You are entitled to your feelings, but if you want to make the best of the situation, you’ve got to get your attitude in check. Remember that time on Sex and the City when Charlotte forced herself to get dressed and go to Brady’s birthday party after she’d been locking herself in the house for days? “Now is the time for guts and guile,” girl. So pick yourself up, put on your very best outfit, and get back out there.
- Remember you’ll be better on the other side of this. We don’t grow when we’re comfortable! Even though the situation right now is annoying at best and terrifying at worst, when you make it to the other side you’ll be smarter, more experienced, stronger, and refined...basically Superwoman. Chin up!